The 1 word that instantly makes you more high value

There’s one single word that would make you instantly more valuable in the eyes of everyone if you use it correctly.

However if you don’t use it correctly, then it might just backfire on you.

So can you guess what that one word is?

Let’s find out…

Hey it’s D. Shen here the founder of Commitment Triggers where we teach you how to show up as a high value woman who easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from men.

Over the last 8 or 9 years of my career, I’ve noticed that there’s one word that women are typically really bad at using.

There’s sometimes this general feeling that this one word may just offend people and cause them to dislike you. But that’s isn’t true at all.

In fact, as you become an overall individual of value, of substance, then of higher quality people, men and women will be drawn to you.

And if you ever feel like you’re sitting in a position where you’re seeking approval of others too much, then I want you to see this as the antidote to your approval seeking.

Because ultimately…

I want you to become someone who values themselves, I want you to become someone who has immense self respect and self esteem.

Why? Because the world is moved forward by those who believe in themselves.

Because this world will become a better place when there’s more of the resource of you here to give.

Because I have kids and the I want the next generation to live in a world where there are resourceful people, with value and esteem.

And also here’s something to think about.

The moment you start to value yourself, and respect yourself in every way, that’s when others will follow your suit. Think about it… The subconscious rule is always… “If that’s how she’s treating herself, then that’s probably how I need to treat her too.”

After all, I’m sure you’ve heard of the idea that we’re always teaching the people around us on how to treat us. And I really want you to take that seriously. It’s not just in what we explicitly say, but also in our actions and in our energy.

If we give off an energy, a vibe that screams… I don’t value myself, then others will pick that up.

Because our energy screams way louder than the sound of our words.

Now of course, does this one word going to change your life around completely overnight?

Probably not, but it’s going to help you create some momentum in the right direction.

If you haven’t guessed what that one word is, it’s the word No.

No. That’s right no.

Practice it. Say it out loud. Say it out proud. Make it sound good. No.

No I’m serious.

Say it out loud. Don’t be shy.

See, sometimes when we say no to others, we say yes to ourselves right?

No I don’t accept.

No I don’t want that.

No, this isn’t right.

And sometimes it’s not about saying no directly to others. Sometimes we have to say no to our own negative patterns habits and even the stories we tell ourselves.

No I don’t want to feel that way anymore.

No I refuse to continue feeling sorry for myself.

No I won’t let my body, mind and spirit suffer through this anymore.

See when you say no to your negative patterns and habits, you are saying yes to your standards.

You are saying YES to your standards.

Because by practicing the word no, you will have a better idea of your own relationship boundaries and personal boundaries.

Because by practising the word no, you will be exercising your own authority, autonomy and respect for yourself.

Just like your muscles, if you don’t exercise them on a regular basis, you’ll lose the power to do so eventually.

And also the beautiful thing about practicing the word no, is that you’ll get better at knowing when you should say YES.

Let’s practice together, shall we?

No.

Absolutely NOT.

No. Put some intensity into it.

I hope that serves you in some way.

D. Shen

Commitment Triggers

P.S.

Let me know in the comments what you should have said NO to in your life that you didn’t… and ultimately what it costed you in the long run.

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Wendy
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That was fun!

Danaellen
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Saying no with empathy, especially to ourselves, is even more powerful.

The brilliance of this blog cannot be overstated.

Valarie
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Thanks for the Great work. Hits home!

Morgan
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Thank you!! This is so important and something that I’ve struggled with many times over my life! I also think it’s important that when you say no, you don’t say it out of fear, but simply out of respect for your boundaries.
“No, I won’t go on a date with that person” because you’re scared you will turn out to be not enough vs. “No, I won’t go on a date with that person” because they’re a heroin addict and you want better for yourself.

Sara
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I love this, so empowering! Thank you guys!!!

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