There are two distinct traits of women that men routinely fall in love with regardless of the woman’s age, culture or belief system.

(Surprisingly this is universally true all around the world and you will discover what these 2 traits are in this article…)

See, after working with and coaching hundreds and thousands of women in love, dating and relationship, I’ve discovered something very important.

When men fall in love with a woman, there are ALWAYS 2 traits that the woman exhibits, whether consciously or subconsciously. (And surprisingly this works like clock work, it works as consistently as the law of gravity.)

Now a part of you might be wondering, surely this doesn’t work for everyone. Surely there are exceptions…

Well, as it turns out, not really.

Here’s why these two traits work like magic…

The reason why these 2 traits work so well to trigger men to fall in love, is because they are based on evolutionary biology. In other words, we as a species depended on this emotional mechanism to help us survive for hundreds of thousands of years. It’s in our DNA.

Don’t just take my word for it, go out there and test it out for yourself. I want you to experience first hand how this works for you.

You see, for a man to fall in love with any woman, he has to perceive the woman exhibiting these two traits at a very subconscious level.

(See my article on why men don’t fall in love with perfect women…)

Because the truth is, it’s not his conscious choice who he falls in love with or whether he falls in love or not.

Right? We all know that we don’t choose who we fall in love with… it just happens. (That’s because everything works way below the conscious thought level.)

It’s literally a cascade of biological and chemical reactions inside of him that allows him have that emotional euphoria that men go through when they’re in love.

But here’s a caveat… for a man to go through the emotional and biological experience of falling in love, you as the woman must exhibit BOTH of these traits. (This is important, so listen up.)

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that one of these trait is more important than the other, they’re both equally as important.

Why being attractive is NOT one of these 2 traits.

So before I reveal to you what these 2 traits are, let me just tell you that being attractive is NOT one of these 2 traits. Unfortunately I think in today’s world, we as a society put way too much emphasis on how we look externally, and way too little emphasis on how we show up to the world.

I mean have you ever known someone who is totally attractive yet still couldn’t keep a relationship together? Absolutely! Are there plenty of women on this planet who are naturally attractive but still being treated like a doormat?
You bet…! All you have to do is look around.

The truth is, every single day, men are falling in love with average looking women. It’s not about how you look, it’s about how you show up.

Don’t get me wrong, making yourself look good is sometimes important. But the purpose of that isn’t to attract men as much as it is to compete with other women.

(You get what I’m talking about right? To compete with all the other bitches out there! To feel like you’re better than other women. And there’s nothing wrong that. We all have that inside of us.)

To inspire a man to fall in love, requires a completely different approach.

But to inspire a man to fall in love, requires a completely different approach. And thats what I want to share with you.

When a man falls in love with you, he thinks and feels you’re perfect regardless of how you look. Your physical beauty makes no difference in his emotionally driven mind.

It’s basically hijacking his brain!

And guess what? A man in love will always find a way to commit, because he’s emotionally driven to do so.

Most of the time, men are looking for every reason to avoid commitment, when he’s in love, the exact opposite is true.

So enough of this lead up, what are the 2 traits that I’ve been teasing you about?

Trait 1) It’s your ability to show up as a…

The first trait is your ability to show up as a high value high status woman.

I repeat, it is your ability to show up as a high value high status woman.

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Let me explain.

We as human beings live in hierarchies. We always have this ladder of hierarchy in our subconscious mind and we carry it around everywhere we go.

This isn’t my wish for inequality, but our brains are actually hardwired for hierarchy. In other words, we can’t live without hierarchy.

Here’s the reason why…

Fact is… Our brains were shaped by hierarchy…

Our brains developed the need for hierarchy in order to live cohesively in a group environment. It’s so that we can cooperate and work together in order to survive.

Back in the tribal days, if you were in the wilderness by yourself, chances are, you’re dead… unless you’re Bear Grylls. He’d probably survive and make a tv series about it.

But for everyone else, we needed our tribe in order to survive. So our brains literally are built to always work with other people in the ladder of hierarchy.

In fact, this subconscious need for hierarchy exist in every single species of animal that live in groups.

Think about a pride of lions or a troop of monkeys. There are always this ladder of hierarchy.

(There are always a few alpha leaders, and so on and so on…)

We are very much the same. Think about it…

When we’re meeting new people, what do we do? We instantly suss them out, even when we don’t mean to. We do it instinctively because we are trying to figure out where they fit on our mental projection of this ladder of hierarchy. In other words, we’re sussing out how high value high status they are.

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In dating, this is really the only thing that matters…

When you’re in the dating someone, the ONLY thing that really matters is to present and prove your value as a woman. This is critical for you to understand IF you’re dating and you want to get past that stage and into a long term committed relationship.

The ONLY thing that really matters is to present and prove your value as a woman.

And of course, men do the same to prove their value as men.

And ultimately it’s those who present themselves as low value and low status who will ultimately struggle to find a partner, find love and have the relationship they desire.

Think about this…
That is why celebrities don’t seem to struggle to find a date. Now you’re thinking, but I’m not a celebrity. That doesn’t matter. You could be your own celebrity. You could hold yourself as a celebrity. And that’s what really matters.

It’s all about how you hold yourself, how you show up. After all, status is only ever just a perceived thing.

Brad pitt put in a remote tribe of amazonian hunters would have no perceived status, unless he earns it.

And thats the good news because you too, can show up to be high value high status regardless of your age, your financial situation, your IQ or who your friends are… if you know how.

I would love to get into the how, but that is beyond the scope of this article… I can fill a whole weekend seminar on just the how, but I just wanted to plant the idea with you right now.

(In fact we teach that transformational process of becoming high value high status in some of our programs. But I’m sure you can check them out later on.)

Compatibility was never the issue…

See, when it comes to dating, it’s not all about compatibility. I know a lot of people talk about compatibility, I hate it. I believe if someone is truly in love with you, they will move mountains to make things work.

When there isn’t that much deep emotional attraction going on, that’s when little things start to get on your nerve… like… gosh what kind of shoes are you wearing?

See, in dating, when people say they’re incompatible, they’re really saying that the other person didn’t present enough value or status. But that doesn’t sound so good, does it?

So instead, they call it “compatibility issues”.

But it really comes down to value and status and your ability to show up as a high value high status woman.

I really want you to remember this, your job is to give the perception that you are indeed highly valuable as a woman.

If you like me to teach you more about how to show up as high value high status, just let me know by leaving me a comment below.

Men fall in love with women who are high value high status. It’s not his choice, his biology dictates it. Men never fall in love with women who are low value. And that is universally true. Sometimes men give attention to low value woman, but that’s because he wants some sexy times and he thinks it would be easy with a low value woman.

Not to mention, men routinely take advantage of, use and abuse women who present themselves as low value.

So I really hope I’ve planted this idea with you that the skill of showing up as a high value high status woman is paramount.

But… being high value high status will only get you half way there.

If you’re only high value high status, and that’s ALL you are, then men will find you very difficult to connect with.

Trait 2) It is your ability to be open and vulnerable in spite of fear.

Here is the second trait of women that men routinely fall in love with. And that trait is vulnerability. In other words, it’s your ability to deeply connect with your own emotions so that a man can feel you, connect with you and is inspired to take care of you.

(Click here to learn more about vulnerability.)

It’s about learning to open and become comfortable in that openness. (In spite of how much fear there always will be when it comes to love.)

To be in love means that you have to be fully open to the experience. We can’t fall in love with masks, nor can we fall in love with people’s outer shell.

We have to go deep.

In this day and age, a lot of us have been encouraged to push down our emotions, and make them wrong. The more masculine your job or career is, the more you’re encouraged this way.

Not to mention we’re fed the message of “Be a strong woman, take care of yourself, you don’t need a man!”

As much as that is true in a certain context, it is the very thing that make some women take it too far and ending up rejecting her own femininity and vulnerability.

And if your vulnerability isn’t there, what is a man suppose to take care of? What would be the emotional reason for him to invest his energy and time with you?

How is he ever going to feel like a man?

Think about that?

If there are no compelling reasons for a man to stay in a relationship, then chances are, he’s gone.

A man is compelled to take care of you and devote himself to you because of your vulnerability.

It’s an invitation for men to offer his presence. It’s a gift to him. It gives him the permission to protect you. It makes him feel alive, it gives him purpose.

Your ability to feel your emotions and express your emotions are the very reasons why men want to commit to you and take care of you.

But isn’t vulnerability a weakness?

Unfortunately most people have the false idea that vulnerability is weak.

Let me tell you, there’s nothing weak about opening yourself to feel your emotions. There’s nothing weak about being courageous enough to acknowledge that your feelings exist.

Being vulnerable isn’t about being needy. They are very different.

Neediness is in fact an expression of low value. I’m sure you know that already.

Why is it a sign of low value? Because it’s about trying to take value from the world and people around you.

Neediness is about value extraction. It’s about needing and expecting the presence of a man.

Vulnerability on the other hand, true vulnerability is an expression of high value. It’s value creation.

It’s about creating and inspiring the desire for a man to be there and want to give you his presence.

But firstly you have to get in touch with your own emotions. Give your emotions space and time to surface so that you can experience them. They are here to serve you, even though they may seem scary at times.

And once you can truly face your own emotions, then you can truly connect with a man on the deepest of levels and create an emotional bond that even soul mates are envious of.

So if you want a man to fall deeply in love with you, focus on these 2 traits. The skill of showing up as a high value high status woman, and your ability to express your vulnerability in order to connect on a deep emotional level.

If you don’t remember anything I say, remember those 2 things, and I promise you they will take you a long way.

In fact, we teach you 4 weeks worth of this in our Commitment Control 2 program. I guarantee it will shift your outlook and mindset about men, dating and commitment.

Click to read more about Commitment Control 2.

Look, if you found this article to be useful, then you probably want to learn more. We currently have our commitment masterclass up and running, if you haven’t taken it, it’s a great idea. It’s 100% free for you to take, there’s a ton of great insights that I promise will change the way you see men and commitment.

Click here to register for our amazing Commitment Masterclass.


D. Shen

Commitment Triggers

P.S. Now, my guess is, there are certain things about men that confuses you… (After all, you probably don’t have that stupid y chromosome. Trust me, it’s that y chromosome that screws everyone up.)

Well, over the years, I’ve realised that there are 5 things that every woman ought to know about men, love and sex, 5 fundamental truths.

If you don’t know them, and don’t understand the implications of them, then I can guarantee pain. (Not that I want you to have pain, but sometimes we can only either have the understanding or the pain.)

So it’s your choice right?

These 5 fundamental truths will shift that for you. Click here to find out what these 5 fundamental truths are…

If you haven’t signed up to my newsletter or email list, this is a good time to do so. (You can do this by doing one of the quizzes or attend our Commitment Masterclass)

So now, I want you to do some reflection and leave a comment below to share with us… What are some of the key insights you’ve taken away from this article?

What will becoming high value high status and yet vulnerable mean to you and your love life?

How is this going to help you in the future?

Until next time, make sure you look after yourself, give yourself the resources you need so that you can show up as the high value high status woman you were meant to be.

Talk soon.

Author D. Shen

David is the founder of Commitment Triggers & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to attract a high value man and inspire him to be emotionally committed to the relationship long term.

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