There are 3 very important reasons why you should never trust a man’s words.
(Since I’ve seen too many women blindly holding onto a man’s words and ultimately being let down over and over…)
Look, here’s the truth…
There are plenty of men around you who are sweet talkers or smooth talkers…
They’d say what you want to hear just so they can get what they want from you. (Sounds familiar?)
The thing is, it was never about the words in the first place. It’s about understanding something much deeper than his words.
So here’s a video I made for you on this…
Let’s discuss these 3 reasons why you should never trust a man’s words
First reason: Words are cheap, very cheap!
Let me ask you this… How easy is it for a man to say something he doesn’t truly mean?
As human beings, we all rely on our words to communicate, yet it only counts as 8% of all forms of communication. (ie… rest is tonality and body language.)
So words are really the easiest form of manipulation that we all have access to.
Many very smart scientists have even concluded that the reason why we have such big brains is to have the ability to deceive others. (Think about that for a moment.)
So remember, words are not just easy, they are also cheap. It literally costs nothing to say things that you don’t mean or say things to get what you want.
Second reason: It’s easy to get sucked into the right words
Guess who tends to use the right words?
Yup, men who are smooth talkers! And they’re so good at saying the right things at the right time because they’ve had a lot of practice!
So men who are smooth talkers, are the ones who are full of masks that they wear.
You have to test them, prod them and peel those masks off to really see who they are and to know if they mean what they say or will do what they say.
Women who easily fall prey to these smooth talkers are most often those who feel deprived of something, whether that is attention, praise, or connection.
Third reason: By trusting a man’s words, there’s a tendency to turn a blind eye to his actions.
Isn’t that right?
When you hold on to his words, you naturally turn a blind eye on his actions, his habits and his intent.
But why is it so easy to hold onto words?
It’s because words are tangible. It’s something you can believe in and rely on because he said so.
But remember, words are cheap and you should never believe them easily.
So what should you do when you can’t trust a man’s words wholeheartedly?
The key is to put your trust and your instinct to your man’s actions, behaviors, habits and intent.
And to do that you have to dig deeper to know who this man really is. Know what kind of a person he is beyond the mask he’s wearing.
The question to ask really is this:
Are his actions, behaviours, intent and habits congruent to his words?
Is this man congruent in his ways???
How do you tell?
Get him out of his routine and find ways to strip him off his mask, routines and shells.
Then hit him with tough questions!
You can also test him with questions like…
“What would you rather have- a billion dollars or fall in love for the rest of your life”?
We’re trying to find out who this man really is so don’t be afraid to ask him tough questions if you have them.
The goal is to push him to reveal his true self and his intentions.
Is this man congruent in his ways???
Are his words congruent with his actions, behaviour and intent?
Alright, that’s it from me.
What I want you to do now is to send in your tough questions that you want to ask your man. Comment it in the comment section and let’s discuss it!
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