How to understand men: 5 Things Every Woman Ought to Know About Men

How to understand men? Well, there are 5 things every woman ought to know about men – 5 “fundamental truths”.

Not knowing these and not appreciating the importance of these, will mean a great deal of pain and suffering for you as a woman.

So in this article, you will discover what these 5 things are, and what they mean to you…

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Now I don’t have to tell you, that men and women are inherently different… I mean, that’s obvious.

But listen, for most of us, it’s hard to even imagine what it would be like in the body of the opposite sex. We just have no idea, it’s incredibly foreign to us.

We can perhaps intellectually talk about it, but it’s very hard for us to have that bodily experience.

As such, it’s sometimes very hard for a woman to answer by herself, the question of “how to understand men?”

Suffering through lack of understanding and appreciation.

And it’s through these incredible differences between the sexes that cause most of our suffering in dating & relationships.

Look, I’ve been guilty of this, a million times, so I’m not pointing the finger.

My role is to perhaps give you some insights on how to understand men so that you can feel more successful with men and also hopefully you won’t get stuck in a place that you don’t want to be.

Because I can tell you this, as a man, my intuitive thoughts, feelings and actions are most likely completely different to yours as a woman.

That’s not me being sexist, that’s just how it is because of our different biochemistry. Your biochemistry could be very similar to mine and we would share a lot of commonalities, but if you’re like the 80 to 90 per cent of all women in the world, that’s probably not the case.

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Men’s & women’s different hormones have been shaping our brains since before Birth

You see, our biology dictates a lot more of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour than we give them credit for.

Our different sexual hormones have been shaping our brains since before we were born.

So by understanding these 5 fundamental truths about men, you are literally giving yourself an outstanding sense of confidence that you otherwise wouldn’t have.

Not to mention, the man that you choose to be with, will ultimately be grateful to you that you understand him.

Look, we all have different backgrounds and beliefs, and we all have a different idea of what an outstanding relationship is, but I can guarantee you this, every single man on earth would love to be with someone who gets him.

Someone who understands the the inherent struggles and challenges of a man. Someone who doesn’t go straight to judgement but rather stays patient and wants to understand.

Not to mention, you’ll become an infinitely more valuable woman to any man you’ll ever meet.

When you understand him, you will make him realize your value.

Here are the 5 “fundamental truths” every woman ought to know about how to understand men.

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1) Men are always responding to your energy as a woman

How a man treats you, is a direct reflection of the energy you’re putting out.

Now, just so you know, I’m not blaming you because someone was being a jerk to you.

Doesn’t matter which way you look at it, he was still a jerk.

But…

You have to be responsible for the energy you put out in to the world, because every single man will be picking up your energy and responding to it in their unique ways.

Sometimes I tell people, it’s not so much that he’s a jerk, he’s just a jerk to you.

Now, I know that doesn’t sound very nice, but listen…

Men will definitely show up as more of a jerk if you show up as a low value woman. They don’t always mean to be jerks, but they’re just acting out of their natural instinctive responses.

That doesn’t mean it’s your fault. But it’s always good to understand the effects of your energy upon other people.

At the same time, these “jerks” will show up completely differently if a high value woman was to walk by.

Just like yourself, I’m sure you can relate to this… sometimes you don’t mean to be a bitch, but in front of certain people, you just can’t help it. Right?

You’re simply responding to their energy.

Well, the energy you put out into the world matters, because men will always respond to your energy.

And this is especially true when you’re meeting and dating men.

Your energy will determine whether he would want to be with you long term, or if he only wants something more casual.

Which leads me to the next point.

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2) It’s in every man’s nature to love commitment.

Look, it’s not that men are commitment phobic, even though they are.

Let me explain…

I can honestly and sincerely tell you that inside of every single man, is someone who would love to commit completely and deeply to one woman, even those who are extremely commitment phobic.

How can I say that?

Because all men have the neurology and biochemistry to commit. The act and the desire to commit is hardwired in men.

In fact, I would go as far as saying that, we are meant to be pair bonded and committed.

The problem is, most women don’t show up with the energy that inspires the man to commit deeper.

Think about it, how many times have we seen a man, who goes around dating different women never wanting to settle down, and one day… he meets the one and it’s all over? Right?

For a man who never wants to be in a long term relationship, he just can’t help but want to be in one.

It’s happened in the movie, crazy stupid love, love and other drugs, and many other movies because this theme is rather common in life.

Because all men have the hardwiring to want to commit, but they just need the right energy in front of them.

That’s where you come in. Here are 3 Reasons Why All Men Secretly Love to Commit.

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3) Men chase 2 types of women, but only commit to one of these types.

Have you ever had the experience of having a man very interested in you initially, but at a certain point weeks or months into it, he suddenly goes cold? Like bam, he’s gone.

Here’s why…

Men automatically and subconsciously categorise women into two baskets. They do this, not because they’re manipulating bastards, but because both men and women inherently have two mating strategies.

For men, they’re either seeing you as his one and only, in which he will invest his energy and emotions in you, OR he will see you as one of many.

And there’s an astronomical difference between two categories.

You see, when a man sees you as one of many, he will still show a great deal of interest in you. He will pursue you, he will give you a great deal of attention.

Fantastic… Actually NO.

This is where a lot of women fall into a trap of actually thinking that this attention actually means something.

Here’s the difference between a man who is serious about you or JUST “interested”.

Unfortunately as one of many, all this man is interested in, is to get inside your panties. That’s why they usually disappear after having sex with you, or if they feel like they’re not going to get any sex any time soon.

This is an entirely sex driven pursuit and for the most part, it’s probably something you want to avoid, if you want a committed relationship.

However, if the man sees you as his one and only, he will still show interest in you, and pay you a great deal of attention, but there’s a lot more to it than that.

He will want to spend time with you, just for the sake of spending time with you. He will want to be emotionally invested in you, and for a man, that’s a big deal.

So how do you tell if he’s interested in you as his one and only? Or just one of many?

One thing you need to look for, are indicators of commitment. How much does he want to spend time with me just to spend time with me, without the end goal of having sex? That’s the question you have to ask.

Now you’re probably wondering, how do I get him to see me as his one and only? What do I have to do?

My wife has a good answer for you in her wildly popular “Becoming His One & Only” – 5 Secrets to Have Your Chosen Man Fall in Love with You and BEG You to be His One & Only”.

The answer to how you get him to see you as his one and only, is a concept I call high value vulnerability. We talk a lot more about this inside our program Commitment Control 2, if you want to check that out, I’m sure there’s a link somewhere.

But remember, men chase women for two reasons. But men only ever commit to a woman he perceives as his one and only type of woman.

If you want a committed relationship, that’s where you want to be.

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4) Sex is a cheap commodity to a man.

If you are like most other women who are naturally feminine in your biology, then how you see sex is not how a man sees sex.

After all, you have the eggs, he’s got the sperm… which automatically creates problems…

An egg from a fertile woman fetches up to 30,000 dollars on the open market. One single egg that is. For men, a bucket load of sperm is still pretty much worthless.

So this difference in biology means that men see sex somewhat differently to women.

One of the biggest and most important insights you need to understand is that for a man, love and sex are two different and separate processes.

If you were to examine a feminine woman’s brain through an MRI scan, you’d see that the parts of her brain that lights up for sex is quite similar to the parts of her brain that lights up for love.

There’s a big over lap.

Whereas for most masculine men, the overlap is very small. In other words, the part of his brain that lights up when thinking about sex is very different to the parts of his brain thinking about love.

What does that mean for you? It means that men by default, separate love and sex.

Don’t ever assume that by having sex with a man, he will love you more. And don’t assume that if he loved you, he would have sex with you. These are two very different pathways for a man.

Think about the implications of this…

So we live in a world where sex is everywhere and very easily accessible. Any man with his paycheque in his pocket can have access to sex almost guaranteed. Any man with an internet connection can access the plethora of free porn that is floating above us in the clouds.

So to men, sex has become rather a commodity, it has become cheap.

The value of sex for the sake of sex, is rock bottom. Men may chase after sex, but they don’t value it. It doesn’t really mean anything to them.

This is one of the fundamental things you need to remember in your quest to answer the question of “how to understand men”.

So what does that mean to you as a woman?

Well, firstly, your value to a man is not that you can give him sex. But what is value to a man, then?

Which brings me to the last point.

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5) Your ultimate value to a man is not what you can do for him. Your ultimate value and ultimate gift to a man is your energy.

Look, men’s lives are actually quite boring. The masculine energy is a dead energy. It’s not alive like the feminine.

You as a woman, can light up a man’s life infinitely more so than any of his projects, deadlines, world championships or ambitions to dominate the world. That is your gift.

That’s what men would trade everything in the world for.

It’s that spark of life, that they can never obtain from their masculine lives.

Because anything that lives in that masculine domain is emotionally dead.

A man may thrive in that environment and really feed off that sense of mission and achievement but nothing will compare it to that fire that a good woman can plant in his heart.

Your job is to plant that fire with your energy.

And once you do, nothing else will matter.

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So just to recap. The 5 things you need to understand about men are…

1) Men are always responding to your energy as a woman.

2) It’s in every man’s nature to love commitment.

3) Men chase 2 types of women, but only commit to one of these types.

4) Sex is a cheap commodity to a man.

5) Your ultimate value to a man is not what you can do for him. Your ultimate value and ultimate gift to a man is your energy.

Think about the implications of these 5 truths about men.

I hope this answered your questions on understanding men.

Think about how these affect your preconceived ideas about men, love and relationships.

Now we have a whole 2 week home study coaching course on understanding men. The program is literally called Understanding Men because we go deep into the psychology of men, so that you can understand and easily predict what your man is thinking and feeling.

This is usually the first program I recommend women take, because knowledge is power and knowledge in men is of course, power with men. And through the special exercises we’ve put together in this program, you too will have the understanding of men that most women never get.

As one of our existing members once mentioned, this is the training program that every woman needs to go through, she wished she had gone through the course 22 years earlier herself.

So now, I want you to do some reflection and leave a comment below to share with us…

What key ideas really resonated with you from this video?

How will these ideas affect your life and your interactions with men?

I would love to hear your thoughts.

Until next time, make sure you look after yourself, give yourself the resources you need so that you can show up as the high value high status woman you were meant to be.

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Renee Wade
Renee Wade

Amazing article, I enjoyed it. Love you. XxX

Harry
Harry

Men’s energy is not dead energy. It’s sperm that carries the spark of life. The primal urge to fertilize as many eggs as possible does not preclude a man’s urge to be committed to a single woman that appreciates him and makes him feel needed, and loved.

Zully Diaz
Zully Diaz

I love this triggers !!!! I have been reading Renee before and this is really working for me … I was all the time a low value woman and I met a wonderful person a week ago and I’m practicing everything that I learned from you guys and he is completely committed to me !!! He can’t stop himself of seeing me for just having me in his side !!! He was a jerk before he said and now he is the most lovely person on earth that I have ever met … It’s a wonderful feeling that I’m his… Read more »

Anna C
Anna C

Hello David! Great article as always… What you said about men not being jerks sometimes, but jerks to you really is profound, because that line contains a lot of information. Most women out there are ordinary, in that, they look for what they will get out of a relationship instead of what they will put in. They see the man as a trophy or source of money rather than a human being with unique needs and feelings. Because of that, the attitude is inherently selfish – What can you do for me? – or desperate – Love me please, I… Read more »

Julie
Julie

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I LOVE understanding men more and more, as it actually makes me just ADORE them! I love that many of the beliefs I had growing up as well as the beliefs that many people around me hold are UNTRUE! It’s a freeing, empowering and delicious treat to have free access to such valuable information. Thank you so much again, you and your wife Renee are both very inspiring individuals and role models and I think of you often.

Jasmine
Jasmine

I must say this article was an eye opener as I found myself thinking back to my last “relationship”. I believe that the “power of knowing” or as you put “knowledge is power” is High value in itself. I attended church yesterday and the topic was “The Power of Knowing”, your article fits perfectly. Knowing yourself, a man or a woman, and God, very powerful sermon. For the women, this is what we are to know about the man we choose: 1. A man’s greatest enemy is his EGO, respect (from a woman) calms the EGO 2. A man’s greatest… Read more »

Rita
Rita

Hi! Thank you for another great article. I’ve been reading yours and your wife’s articles for a while now. I had a very sad breakup a few years ago and since then I’ve been feeling so confused and messed up, trying to understand why I felt and acted the way I did. After that breakup I fell in love with a very manly and sweet man, that still means a lot to me but that I fear I’ve lost. I now realize how much I’ve learned from him, from the man he is. He came at the best and yet… Read more »

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Just watched the video 🙂 Oh, it was oh so valuable. And I know my life will never be the same again with men. This information really sticks, and especially on the parts about how men treat women if it’s just sex they want. Well, I am and always have been really intuitive and empathic, so I can tell how a man is being towards me! I guess that I just need tolearn the art of strengthening my bounderies some more and believe that I deserve to feel loved also – all in good time. Again, loving the whole video… Read more »

Yunita
Yunita

Hi David. It’s me Yunita. Well, what’s the meaning of high quality woman? How men differ/realise between high and low quality woman?

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